My emotions can block me, because I conceptualise my problems as being too big and thorny to be solved
Vs actually, I don’t have a single hyper-niche problem that wouldn’t have straightforward answers
Defender’s “How attention markets work” gave me the idea of a website where you post your open questions, and experts weigh in, in a prediction-market way
Note that the problem with the below is that I can only consider options that I’m already aware of, and I’m not getting the wisdom of the crowd
Pretending this website exists
”How do I ruminate about my family less?“
1. By going to family therapy with each family member?
<1% overall score
Sasha Chapin made some great points:
The logistics of this seems very difficult, as family therapy isn’t very common, I don’t have a car, it’ll be slow going
It’ll be expensive
It’s coming from a place of trying to force people to change
2. By cutting my family out of my life
<1% overall score
Seems lonely, and a classic failure mode of leaving unskillfully and then being resistant to certain thoughts
3. By improving my skillfulness via meditation
”If I did forgiveness meditation for 30 minutes a day for a month, I’d feel better about my family”
80% total score
Will I be able to lock in forgiveness meditation for 30 minutes a day for a month?
20% total score
If I did daily fetters work for a month, I’d feel better about my family
95% total score
Cba to do more of the above right now, so let’s cut to the chase, imagining the highest-rated answers: